Where do I start with this? What a mess! Whens it going to stop this year?!
November 2008: Met the guy of my life, I thought... Things were great until our first argument which displayed his immiturity (6wks later) I began to lose respect for him that day and it never quite recovered.
March 2009: We began talking about moving in together as we were spending the equivalent of a weeks rent on hotel rooms on wkend (we met half way always on Fri and Sat nights). He agreed he'd move down to where I live and work as he was unemployed and it made more sense.
April 2010: He got a job (third job of 5 that he would have over the 3 years we were living together) and met a woman who later took up more time (and importance) than his relationship to me-- I later found out it's because he was smoking pot with her the whole time (lied to me). I really feel that this was when the massive wedge came between us in the form of how much time he was to go and spending with her and not with me. Also even on the days he promised to us, can you believe that? Btw she moved away the same day he took the last of his stuff from our place, coincidence? Hmm!
My friends Birthday December 2010: My parenter drank too much and I began to realise the connection between his abusive rants and alcohol. He took a knife to bed that night and threatened to hurt himself if I left him. Good times, hmm. Btw, it was not the first time I had threatened to leave him.
January 2012: Me and my partner had been arguing for weeks about his doing nothing (cept being with his woman friend who smoked pot) while I worked and provided and he did nothing around our place to keep it clean. Also had to chip in extra dollare as he could never keep a hold of what little money he had... I kinda feel used.
My aunts funeral February 3rd, 1:30pm: In his speech, my Uncle described my aunt as his soul mate. I bowed my head and for the first time, I realised that my partner was not my soul mate.
My Friends Wedding February 4th, 2012: After the ceremony and reception, my partner and I returned to our hotel room to argue for 3 hours because he couldn't find his phone. He was drunk as and so was I, but I handle alcohol better. He called me every name possible as I tried to relax and sleep. He called me a useless piece of shit and that will always stay with me. Than he strangle the back of my neck as I shoved his arm into the bed to try to get him off my legs whilst arguing. We argued for hours the next day, I hit heights of volume I had never hit before but I decided to stay with him if he commit to a 1 drink max whenever out.
February 21st: I came home to an upset parnter. He was crying, saying that he couldn't do this anymore (we had really grown apart since the argument, I hardly spent any time at home anymore- I later realised). He asked to go on a break and left that day. I met a new friend and we noticed he was staying at the woman he pot smoked with house that night before going away- he denied this.
February 24th: I found that he hadn't been doing all the laundry and as a result, some expensive towels I bought were ruined by mould. I txt him with the shits and he text back saying he couldn't do this anymore (our relationship) and it was over.
February 25th: I met up with a couple that live in my area now, finally. I had been talking to one of them online, theyre good people. I remember sitting there talking about my relationship possibly being over. It was weird. How can you just be single after 3.5 years? It was a strange concept to me and made more and more real by them talking about setting me up maybe with ppl lol. And also just the support they were giving me about it, in my mind I was like.. hmm support for that? I just didn't believe that it could be over, it was beyond me. My ex returned the following Wednesday and began grabbing his stuff whilst I was at work until I got the keys back on Thursday. He didn't really seem to care or try patch things up etc, cowardly. I did also find out that he had a guy lined up for himself the following week and they were together briefly until it ended shortly after, HA HA!
March 2nd: Surprise Surprise, my ex moved away on the same day as his pot smoking friend from down the road was moving away. He came in whilst I was at work to get his stuff and never bother to clean up his mess at all. Also, I had to go get the rent card off him and when I did, he didn't get up and walk me out or anything, just sat next to her like a coward. Sometimes I feel sad that I didnt get closure, but I want the 1300 he owes me, so I kept things civil and to the point. As much as I wanted to yell and take out all the bad things he ever said to me, I couldn't.
The week following was spent cleaning up this place top to bottom as I got a surprise letter (on the 8th) from the Sheriff saying that my place is finally being reposessed (landlord passed away and we have expected this letter for a year- shit timing btw, or maybe great timing?). So all of the sudden my lifes mission went from adjusting to single life, to finding a home. Literally NO time to mourn the loss of my relationship-- though to be honest I was having trouble eating and sleeping for 3 days following but Ok after that :) March 18 I went to st patricks parade, just to be random and have a break with my friend Nic.
March 21st was my 29th birthday and I spent the whole week chasing up places (whilst being sick with a bad head cold). All places had gone by the time I was to inspection or too old. I am currently following up place number 4, hopefully it might work out. I bloody hope so hey! More than ever though, Im happy with where I am and don't really want to move. It makes me sad to leave this awesome place I have made and my first home away from home. But time will tell where I end up. April 18th is the D- Day to get out! I will probably get out the weekend before if I have not moved already.
Right now I feel as if I am laying a foundation for my new life.. My missions are to sleep more, get a place, get well, get back into the gym and stop having so many late nights! My energy is failing, but I will get back to where I was in no time (hopefully). Wish me luck :)
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